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Being an overthinker SUCKS. Big time.

Trust me, I know. I overthink EVERYTHING. It only causes anxiety for us. Especially when we don’t know whether or not we’re right or wrong.

Here’s a few tips for those of you who are dating an overthinker.

1. Be straightforward about what you want. The more confusing you are, the crazier your significant other will be. We just want you to say what you want. Is that so much to ask? You can’t send mixed signals. You have to be straightforward. It’s as simple as that. DON’T BE CONFUSING.

2. Never tell them you’re planning a surprise for them. If you’re going to surprise them, make it 100% surprising. Don’t just say “I’m going planning your surprise” and leave it there. Your significant other will think of every possible situation: good and bad. This can either be really bad or really good for you. If their ultimate decision is that it’s going to be a bad surprise, and it’s a great one…then you’re good. If the ultimate decision is this amazing surprise that’s way over the top and probably impossible, then anything you do will be a disappointment. Lesson here: don’t give off any hints to a surprise if you are planning one.

3. Body language means everything. As an overthinker myself, body language tells me everything I need to know. For example, if a guy chooses to sit next to me when there are plenty of other options of seating choices, then I start thinking about the implications of this. Usually, I’ve found if that happens, there’s some kind of interest: whether it be friendly or romantically depends on the situation, but still. You better learn all about body language and what everything you do says about you fast if you want your relationship to be straightforward and to the point (as it should be. See #1).

4. Watch what you say…especially on social media. This one is the most important, especially if your significant other is a girl. Before you start dating, nine times out of ten, they’ve looked you up on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. to see what’s important enough to you to post. You can learn a lot about a person by their social media pages. If you don’t want your significant other to know something, DON’T POST IT. Everything on social media is up for game for not only the overthinkers, but for everyone. The overthinkers will read into everything you’ve posted. If it’s vague, they’ll wonder who’s it about. Nine times out of ten it’ll be: Is this about me? 

5. They’re detail oriented…usually about everything. Make sure details are always taken care of. Overthinkers are usually good at logistical things, like planning, because they can think of every possible situation and use that to their advantage. For example, if I were to plan a date, I’d have all the details accounted for. I’d even have a back-up plan just in case something didn’t work out. As the one dating an overthinker, you’ve got to think like them in this capacity. You don’t want them asking “what now?” You need the details to be taken care of in everything that involves any kind of pre-planning. End of story.

So basically to sum up this article. Pay attention to details. Every little thing you do is going to be thought about…and thought about…and thought about. Also, be straightforward. Your overthinking significant other will appreciate it.

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This Thursday’s Youtube video is from CollegeHumor. If you don’t know them…you have to go watch their videos right now! They’re hilarious!! This one is called “The Six” and it’s all about the six friend your girlfriend has. And honestly when you think about it, all girls have these kind of friends (which makes it better) Enjoy!

“The best friends a person can have are the ones that you don’t see/talk to every day.” -Me

True chiz as Sam from iCarly would say.

Let me give you an example from my life. The youth group I’m apart of is mostly of 8th and 9th graders. With a 4 year gap in between us with only two people in between (one junior and one senior), there are a lot of things that could go wrong. And that’s where I was wrong. Those 8th and 9th graders are some of the best friends I have.

1. They don’t see you every day. That’s a benefit in t

his case. This means so when we meet up (usually on Sundays at church) we get to catch up and get to talking for hours on end. This also means that they don’t know everybody you talk to, hang out with, etc.

2. If they don’t know who you hang out with, talk to, like (romantically), it doesn’t mean you’re not friends, it means they’re the best people for advice. Since they don’t know these people that you talk to on a daily basis, are dating, or hang out with, the friends you don’t see every day offer up the best advice. Why is that, you ask? Because it’s 100% unbiased. Okay, to explain, I’m going to make up some crazy hypothetical situation.

Johnny is dating Sarah. Sarah’s best friend Emily likes Johnny but didn’t tell her until Sarah’s been dating Johnny for almost three months. What does Sarah do?

See if your best friend, in my case the younglings of my youth group, don’t know Johnny or Emily, they’re the perfect ones for advice. They don’t know the people, so they don’t have an opinion of them already. They won’t go running off to tell either Johnny or Emily what you said (assuming you are Sarah in this situation). They’ll give you a decision based off what they would do, and sometimes what other people would do is a heck of a lot better than what you would do. At least for me, because I make a lot of crappy decisions.

3. Hanging out with them is an escape from reality into another reality. Hanging out with the 8th and 9th graders lets me escape the hectic college life and brings me back to the reality that used to be every Sunday and Wednesday (but is now only every 2 or 3 Sundays). I don’t have to worry about what’s going on back at the University of Georgia, all I have to worry about is…well nothing! I just get to have fun with friends. I don’t have to worry

about drama or stupid things that I have to worry about back at college. I get to throw all that out the door in the one hour drive home.

So the best friends I have are the ones at home that I see at church every Sunday I spend at home. Yes, my roommate has been my best friend since high school, and I have other friends my age, but the kids from my youth group are some of my favorites.


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