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Being an overthinker SUCKS. Big time.

Trust me, I know. I overthink EVERYTHING. It only causes anxiety for us. Especially when we don’t know whether or not we’re right or wrong.

Here’s a few tips for those of you who are dating an overthinker.

1. Be straightforward about what you want. The more confusing you are, the crazier your significant other will be. We just want you to say what you want. Is that so much to ask? You can’t send mixed signals. You have to be straightforward. It’s as simple as that. DON’T BE CONFUSING.

2. Never tell them you’re planning a surprise for them. If you’re going to surprise them, make it 100% surprising. Don’t just say “I’m going planning your surprise” and leave it there. Your significant other will think of every possible situation: good and bad. This can either be really bad or really good for you. If their ultimate decision is that it’s going to be a bad surprise, and it’s a great one…then you’re good. If the ultimate decision is this amazing surprise that’s way over the top and probably impossible, then anything you do will be a disappointment. Lesson here: don’t give off any hints to a surprise if you are planning one.

3. Body language means everything. As an overthinker myself, body language tells me everything I need to know. For example, if a guy chooses to sit next to me when there are plenty of other options of seating choices, then I start thinking about the implications of this. Usually, I’ve found if that happens, there’s some kind of interest: whether it be friendly or romantically depends on the situation, but still. You better learn all about body language and what everything you do says about you fast if you want your relationship to be straightforward and to the point (as it should be. See #1).

4. Watch what you say…especially on social media. This one is the most important, especially if your significant other is a girl. Before you start dating, nine times out of ten, they’ve looked you up on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. to see what’s important enough to you to post. You can learn a lot about a person by their social media pages. If you don’t want your significant other to know something, DON’T POST IT. Everything on social media is up for game for not only the overthinkers, but for everyone. The overthinkers will read into everything you’ve posted. If it’s vague, they’ll wonder who’s it about. Nine times out of ten it’ll be: Is this about me? 

5. They’re detail oriented…usually about everything. Make sure details are always taken care of. Overthinkers are usually good at logistical things, like planning, because they can think of every possible situation and use that to their advantage. For example, if I were to plan a date, I’d have all the details accounted for. I’d even have a back-up plan just in case something didn’t work out. As the one dating an overthinker, you’ve got to think like them in this capacity. You don’t want them asking “what now?” You need the details to be taken care of in everything that involves any kind of pre-planning. End of story.

So basically to sum up this article. Pay attention to details. Every little thing you do is going to be thought about…and thought about…and thought about. Also, be straightforward. Your overthinking significant other will appreciate it.

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This is an inspiration passage from my devotional yesterday and I felt like I would be robbing the world if I didn’t share it.

“No one should have to deal with a disease like cancer alone. No one should have to sit in a hospital waiting room alone while their spouse or child or parent is in surgery. No one should have to stand at an open grave alone. No one should have to go through a divorce alone.

Take a moment to assess the relationships in your life. Who really knows you? Who gets you? What risks do you need to take and what secrets do you need to share in order to improve the quality of your relationships? God wants you to connect to him and to his people and develop meaningful relationships. You‘ll never fully get the wind back in your sails until you do.”

This week’s song: Miss Me-Andy Grammar

So for all of you crazy kids who have gotten their heartbroken or have had somebody you cared about walk away and leave you in the dust, this song if for you. Andy Grammar is one of my favorite artists, and will always be. This is one of his newer songs, and I’m obsessed. Slightly because I can relate, but mostly due to the catchy tune.

I hope y’all have a nice week!

I’ve come to a realization. There are just some people in our lives that we don’t want to let go of. It doesn’t matter if it’s been ten years or two days. There are some people in our lives that we will always love somewhere deep inside our hearts. And especially for girls (and me) it’s always the one that ripped your heart out and threw it on the ground and broke it into a million pieces.

What’s got me rambling on about this you ask? One thing really. There was one song that this guy and I shared as “our song” (for lack of a better term…yes that was a Taylor Swift reference) that came up on my iPod when I hit shuffle today (the song was “Smile” by Uncle Kracker). And it brought back all of those memories from years ago.

I haven’t been able to finish that song in two years…and today I actually got through it.

Yes I did think long and hard about all the good memories and how he made me feel at the time. But it also brought back that couple of months afterwards that were miserable. That feeling of having no one to talk to that wasn’t his friend too, feeling like everything he said about you was right, feeling like you just dug yourself your own grave and you might as well die now and stay there (let’s just say those couple of months after the fact, were horrible).

But today I finally made it through that song. That’s a huge accomplishment for me. I don’t think you, the reader, understands this. I finally feel 100% free from all the hurt and the pain and the miserable crap I put myself through during those few months. This song used to be just a song that reminded me of once was. But now it’s a song of who I used to be, and how far I’ve come along.

“You make me smile like the sun, fall out of bed, sing like a bird, dizzy in my head, spin like a record, crazy on a Sunday night. You make me dance like a fool, forget how to breathe, shine like gold, buzz like a bee. Just the thought of you can drive me wild. Oh you make me smile.”

And to be completely cliche (as I love to be) I have to say that makes me smile. 🙂


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