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Being an overthinker SUCKS. Big time.

Trust me, I know. I overthink EVERYTHING. It only causes anxiety for us. Especially when we don’t know whether or not we’re right or wrong.

Here’s a few tips for those of you who are dating an overthinker.

1. Be straightforward about what you want. The more confusing you are, the crazier your significant other will be. We just want you to say what you want. Is that so much to ask? You can’t send mixed signals. You have to be straightforward. It’s as simple as that. DON’T BE CONFUSING.

2. Never tell them you’re planning a surprise for them. If you’re going to surprise them, make it 100% surprising. Don’t just say “I’m going planning your surprise” and leave it there. Your significant other will think of every possible situation: good and bad. This can either be really bad or really good for you. If their ultimate decision is that it’s going to be a bad surprise, and it’s a great one…then you’re good. If the ultimate decision is this amazing surprise that’s way over the top and probably impossible, then anything you do will be a disappointment. Lesson here: don’t give off any hints to a surprise if you are planning one.

3. Body language means everything. As an overthinker myself, body language tells me everything I need to know. For example, if a guy chooses to sit next to me when there are plenty of other options of seating choices, then I start thinking about the implications of this. Usually, I’ve found if that happens, there’s some kind of interest: whether it be friendly or romantically depends on the situation, but still. You better learn all about body language and what everything you do says about you fast if you want your relationship to be straightforward and to the point (as it should be. See #1).

4. Watch what you say…especially on social media. This one is the most important, especially if your significant other is a girl. Before you start dating, nine times out of ten, they’ve looked you up on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. to see what’s important enough to you to post. You can learn a lot about a person by their social media pages. If you don’t want your significant other to know something, DON’T POST IT. Everything on social media is up for game for not only the overthinkers, but for everyone. The overthinkers will read into everything you’ve posted. If it’s vague, they’ll wonder who’s it about. Nine times out of ten it’ll be: Is this about me? 

5. They’re detail oriented…usually about everything. Make sure details are always taken care of. Overthinkers are usually good at logistical things, like planning, because they can think of every possible situation and use that to their advantage. For example, if I were to plan a date, I’d have all the details accounted for. I’d even have a back-up plan just in case something didn’t work out. As the one dating an overthinker, you’ve got to think like them in this capacity. You don’t want them asking “what now?” You need the details to be taken care of in everything that involves any kind of pre-planning. End of story.

So basically to sum up this article. Pay attention to details. Every little thing you do is going to be thought about…and thought about…and thought about. Also, be straightforward. Your overthinking significant other will appreciate it.



June 2018
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